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Tips On Getting Dates In Bars and Clubs

Dear Sex Doctor,

I got your book and I learned a lot from it but what I don't understand is this, a lot of loser guys try to pick up women in horrible fashion so when some girl hears you speak to her she right away puts you in the loser category, (with those guys). So I was wondering how could you make these girls feel comfortable with you in the first few minutes of meeting her?

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Thanks for the comments on the book. We continue to get great reviews from all over!

The most likely situation is that you're working the wrong rooms. This sounds like you're talking about clubs and bars, and yes, you're going to get a lot of "same as" from women there - that's exactly what they're expecting in those places.

When women go to clubs and bars, they have their "bitch shields" firmly in place. You need to know this ahead of time as it's going to change your approach - and success - dramatically. I suggest that a real player avoid these places all together other than to just practice. In most places, the bartenders get more play than the customers do!

If you're really looking to stand out in a place like this, you're going to have to do some work. The first step is to dress extremely well. That means at least a suit, or a nice pair of slacks and an expensive, stylish shirt. Some nice jewelry is a good choice too - at least an expensive looking watch, but don't overdo it either. Make sure your shoes are polished and look good. This means no tennis shoes.

Everything you do at a club or bar is designed to separate you from the pack. Your approach has to be super smooth, your confidence very high and your targets specific and direct. Don't make AFC mistakes like trying to buy drinks, telling women they look great, using pick-up lines, etc.

In fact, I'd just suggest that you avoid these places all together, other than just as a watering hole for you and your friends. Just about anywhere else is a better choice!

Have a love, relationship or man/woman question? Dr. Neder answers all email. Write him at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com for answers. Learn about his book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World", at: www.beingaman.com.
 
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