I am truly an expert on blind dates! Yes, an “expert’. You might think how there could be such a thing, well there is. I have appeared on Blind Date twice and worked with the shows Love Connection, 5th Wheel & Rendezvous. I have been on many blind dates growing up with a hot older sister. Even blind dates have a “system” and if you follow it you will spend the least amount of money and enjoy yourself the most…trust me, I know.

First of all, where are you getting your blind date from? Is it a friend’s friend? Is it someone you met online? Is it someone your mother or sister knows? This is the place you start – “the source”. The source can be the make or break from the word “go”. It is how both you and the date are “described” to one another that will give you both clues and red flags. If the person setting you up is a woman – beware. If the person setting you up is a man – you are golden. That applies to both sexes.

Men are Visual

Men by nature are visual creatures and most guys, especially guys who know you well are not going to set you up with some fat person or somebody they refer to as “a great individual”. That makes me want to puke. When two guys speak fondly of one another in an endorsement they will usually say, he is really funny or really rich or really good looking…rarely will you hear – really nice. When females set you up they tell everything other than what he/she looks like. Females will point out where they went to school, what they drive and what they “guess” they are earning per year. A girl says, “Go out with him he is very successful.” A guy says, “Go out with her she is smoking hot.”

Realistically the first date (blind date) with someone should be pleasing to the eye. Most men don’t care if the girl makes over a million a year if she is overweight with an overbite. Women “SAY” that looks are not as important as what is inside but do you notice how in fantasies on TV they cheat with the flat broke pool boy because aesthetically he is HOT. Don’t kid yourself – GET THE DETAILS.

Get a visual – Can you get a photo? If you are not attracted then you get out before you waste minute #1.

There is no denying initial physical attraction. If you can not get a picture then get a full verbal description.

Interview – Any phone opportunity prior to the date is a chance to weed out your list of “red flags”. Cupid sucks – If the person setting you up describes either of you as “a great person”…that can be read two ways so ask, “What great means to them”. If it is not important stuff to you then get out early.

Now that you know what to look for going in you can make a better decision as if you should go forward or not with the date and if you do then more than likely the other person will have the same amount of information on you. HERE IS THE CATCH. The catch is; whether like your blind date or not you have to be civil and diplomatic because someone you both know set you both up. So here is your plan. By The Book:

Plan a DAY DATE – Day dates are cheaper and shorter, plus you get to see it all. 1 Hour ONLY – Make it lunch or coffee – nothing else. In one hour you will be either eager to see them again or dying to get out of there. Be KIND– No matter what you don’t need to be cruel. Listen to their stories and smile and even kiss her/him on the cheek or shake their hand goodbye when you leave. Even if this is not the one, you will get good press. Be Honest – Tell them you had a great time but if you are not a “match” DO NOT make any suggestions like, “We should do this again” or “I will call you” if none of that is the truth. If they ask you point blank, “Do you want to do this again?” You reply, “Sure, though we are not a match, I can see us being friends.”

Here at BedroomInsider we know all your dates are not going to be successful but the good news is; if you follow formulas that work you will date more often, giving you more opportunities for success. Nobody wants to be thrown into the “buddy zone” or under the “friends” bus but it is better than being treated like crap. If “YOU” are the one being thrown into either of these zones don’t fret, the girl who “passed” on you might pass you on to someone else. Lastly, don’t rule out blind dates in the future because you truly never know who will show up. Months ago I had the most tortuous 1-hour blind date of my life. I wanted to die as I did my best to be a gentleman and entertain her. Last month I went on a blind date and we are now 3 weeks strong…love is blind.

By Jackson Morris
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