Would you keep her around after you found out she was not a candidate for Ms Good Girl USA? Some women don’t even use profanity and yet when you are alone in an intimate setting "profanity” is the least of your worries – she might tie you up and pinch your nipples until they bleed.

Kinky is an indefinable pleasure principle that allows for an almost "anything goes” attitude. For instance S&M is kinky sex but kinky sex is not necessarily S&M. Kinky is something you like doing that is not necessarily acceptable or better yet – "you” don’t THINK it will be acceptable. The credo for the Closet Kink is "keep them guessing”. The kinky person who keeps it a secret does so for various reasons and no less than it being kind of kinky in itself that they have a "dual identity”.

Good cop bad cop – good girl bad girl.

The Closet Kinky crowd usually has a straight laced lifestyle and a virtual closet of kinky toys, clothing, movies and more. The "more” could be anything from vibrating eggs to huge black dildos or even edible panties. Kinky does not have a "level” because kinky is like beauty it is in the eyes of the beholder. If you think it is kinky to you then that are all that matters. Kinky is about an attitude to "push the envelope of one’s self or their partner. Closet kinky could be the girl who wears conservative clothes and glasses at work and likes to give you blowjobs on your lunch hour in the store room but never talks to you otherwise – that is closet kinky.

The bedroom is the breeding ground for kinky behavior and that is where you should have the conversation to see if the one you are with is straight laced or a freak show waiting to happen. Test the waters but be ready for what might be said or what you might see happen that you have never seen her do before. If she has never performed oral sex on you and the first time she kicks it up a notch she sticks her finger deep in your ass then more than likely she will take what ever you can dish out – and then some.

You don’t want to find out the hard way that you can’t keep up with your girl in the Kink department so make sure you both have a heart to belt talk about your desires and fantasies. People will act out there fantasies one way or the other – if you don’t act them out for them they will find someone who will. What else would you expect?



By: Jackson Morris
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