To be a great flirt you must be on the planet, right here and now, and notice just what's going on with the women you're so attracted to. You need to go beyond the obviousness of the thrill of her smile, breasts, and ass and pay attention to her world.

Yes guys, it's time for you to be a "spy in the house of love" and see how much you can learn about these women without them becoming wise to you. What's so special about this or that particular woman? What really caught your attention? Yes, of course there's a physical attraction - we're not dead - but what is it exactly about her appearance that caught your eye? Take mental notes, dig deep, and look for something she's proud of herself for but bummed others rarely notice. What exactly is it about her personality, her style, and her tastes? For each person we're attracted to there's a myriad of particular reasons, be clever and get specific.

Spend too much time hanging out in the buzz of your adoration and some other wise guy is going to come up and snatch her right out from under you while you're day dreaming. It's time to look sharp and zing in an original and thoughtful compliment before you lose your chance. Remember, you're not to claim undying love! No, no, no! This is only the beginning! Now is the time to let her know you've taken the time to really notice her without becoming heavy handed about it. Pay her a small but personal compliment with your own unique spin on it.do it now.


Flirting Should Be Fun & Have Your Own Personal Spin

Flirting isn't a job - it's a game. Flirting should be fun. It should be something you look forward to instead of dreading. Flirting is also unique to each person. When starting out in the flirting game it's tempting to use the same exact tactics you've noticed friends or even movie idols use - but dare yourself to be original. Use flirting to show off the best of your very own personality, not someone else's. Know that your flirting technique is a work in progress - each day you're going to learn new tools and tricks to incorporate into your game.


Moving Beyond Compliments

While a small unique compliment is one of the best ways to start off a flirtation, compliments certainly aren't the only way to flirt. What's important is that you impart the information to the other person that you're intrigued by them - but not that you're ready to throw yourself at their feet. It's important to infer attraction without it seeming that it's the only thing you're really thinking about - even if that's really the case. Sometimes a small put down said in jest can be one of the best ways to let someone know you've had your eye on them - without coming across as if you're lovesick. Please note, I said a small put down, not a nasty insult, and make sure the other person knows your comment is very "tongue in cheek". The goal is to tease the girl and capture her imagination - not truly anger her.


Yes, there are people who get excited and turned on by slinging mutual insults, but when attraction is behind it, you can often get yourself painted into a corner and not know when enough is enough. Since each person has his or her own idea of what the line of "going too far" is - why risk it?


Bringing Things To a Boil Slowly

Hitting a woman too hard and too fast with your flirting runs the risk of overwhelming her and turning her off. Give yourself the best chance by turning up the heat in your flirting slowly. This gives her time to get use to the idea of you in a romantic way but keeps you out of the "friend" category (unless you mess this up by then becoming her door mat best buddy). Each of us holds cards of power in a relationship, but most of us give away this power by showing the extent of our attraction and interest far too quickly. You don't need to flirt with a woman every time you see her, especially if it's a daily or hourly thing - in fact it's best to keep her guessing a bit and not flirt all the time. This way she also has the opportunity to pick up the flirting ball and run with it - which is a pretty clear signal that she's interested as well.

Please note, however, that women are often more socialized than men and can take what a man thinks is serious flirting as only friendly banter. To keep yourself from falling in this trap you shouldn't consider any of your flirting very serious until you've successfully given it sexual undertones, letting her know of your physical interest in her, and she's still volleying back and forth with you happily. Once this is happening don't wait too long to make your move or she'll think you're just toying with her. Once she's tilting her head to the side when she's speaking with you, and putting a hand on your arm or shoulder when she makes a point - it's time to ask her out. It's time to ad dating to the flirting, but yes, if you want things to be hot between the two of you, you'll keep your flirting tools sharp and ready.