-Obsessing over a past romantic relationship and not living in the present.

-Obsessing over someone who’s shown no interest in being more than your friend.

-Allowing your shyness to freeze you into unsocial behavior.

-Allowing your negative thoughts about yourself to freeze you into loneliness.


What Are You Worth?

It’s simple really. The question you have to ask yourself is what are you worth? Are you only worth living on memories and sad fantasies? Or living in the here and now and getting some real action? Are you only worth being stuck in the negativity in your head? Or worth getting out there and learning to enjoy yourself in the here and now?

It’s simple really. The question you have to ask yourself is whether you prefer real pussy or the fabricated kind of the Internet, magazines and videos. Hey, if you prefer fantasy women I’ll leave you to it dude, myself, I prefer the taste, touch, and squeeze of a real live woman. I want to chat with real women, drink with real women, dance with real women, and yes, I want to fuck real women.

Sure, dealing with the real live version of the female persuasion involves risks, but so does driving on the freeway. Our growing fascination with instant gratification media has made many men very lazy, shy creatures with fingers full of dexterity for computer games but little knowledge of how to use them on live flesh (hers not your own).

So just how do you break out of the trap of your own head and start getting some real live action? I’m going to quote the ever lively, venerable author Helen Gurley Brown who has been quoted as saying that a "rich, full life of dating doesn’t require great beauty, money or flamboyance. Rather, you work with the raw material you have, namely you, and never let up.” Why should we listen to this elegant but "senior” citizen and re-work her words to work for dating men? In 1962 this one time copywriter wrote the a little book called "Sex and the Single Girl” that set the literary world on fire. She then went on to become editor-in-chief of a Midwestern magazine called Cosmopolitan (perhaps you’ve heard of it) and took it to the top with a circulation of 3 million by becoming a trend-setter of the youth culture of the time by dealing with sex for women in a straight forward, fun fashion. Without Gurley-Brown blazing a trail there would never have been Candace Bushnell’s "Sex and The City”.

I owe much of my early sexual knowledge to slyly leafing through my Mom’s copies of Cosmo as a young man. One of Gurley-Brown’s famous terms for a woman not living up to her potential in life, love, and yes sex, was a "mouse burger”. That term has always stuck in my head.

So do you want to be a man, or a mouse burger? If you’re ready to give up the mouse here’s an action plan you can take to get out of that negative space in your head and into some wonderful woman’s bed:


Limit Your Negative Thinking To One Fifteen Minute Period Per Day

You pick the time and the place (same each day) and let those negative thoughts rip for a full fifteen minutes – however – during the rest of the day every time you catch yourself in negative thinking (including obsessing about a past love) you stop yourself cold.


Limit Your Online & T.V. Viewing Time

It’s easy, it’s cheap and slowly but surely you become a couch potato. Limit your online viewing to three nights a week for a period of three months. Why not try September, October and November?


Take A Class

Women are constantly trying to improve themselves and meet men by taking classes. You name it, and women are out there taking a class in it, whether it be wine tasting at your local gourmet grocery store or calligraphy at your local community college. Be smart – join them. Choose a subject you really want to learn about and take a class in it. No, you may not hook up romantically with anyone, but if you don’t act like a complete ass, and you make an effort to be friendly you’ll make female friends. Why do you need female friends? Because female friends go shopping with you and help you pick out clothes that make you look like a cool due instead of a dork (and of course best of all), and female friends introduce you to their friends and so on and so forth…you get the picture.


Join A Large Online Dating Site With Local Events

Large, well-organized, dating sites (like Match.com) now offer fun singles events separated by age categories at restaurants and bars that are local to anyone in a major metropolitan area. If your budget is really cramped you can join a free "friend” site like "friendster.com” or "myspace.com” and make friends and find out about local events that way.


Challenge Yourself To Find Three Crushes At A Time

In Myreah Moore and Judi Gould’s dating advice book for women "How To Date Like A Man” they recommend a woman be dating "a pair and a spare” at any given time, meaning that a woman should be actively dating two men and lining up another possibility for the future. One of the best ways to let go of and old love or a current crush that isn’t returning your feelings is to replace them with someone new – but you can’t do that if you’re home on the couch. Where to find these new crushes? Just get out there and look!