Following I’ll share with you the top date tips of both what "to” and "not to” do on a date and after that you’ll read all about the dates from heaven and hell from the ladies themselves! Their stories are funny, insightful, and should give heart to any man who feels either his appearance or possible physical handicaps are what hold him back from getting out there and meeting a fantastic woman.


How To Please Her On A Date

· Surprise her with your great manners. We are becoming a society with fewer and fewer social graces. Open the door for her to your car (unless you meet at the place), same with the door to the restaurant, bar, or any place you go. And don’t, above all, steal the conversation and make it all about you!

· Get to know her well enough on the phone or via email to pick a place to go that you know she’ll enjoy and make it moderate enough in price that she can easily afford to pick up her half of the bill if she’s just not interested.

· Surprise her with fun. Be the guy who listens well enough to find out what kinds of things would thrill her. Maybe she’s the sort who hasn’t been to an amusement park in years, or who would love to go on a day trip to someplace scenic for a wonderful picnic.


How To Strike Out On A Date

· Arrive looking totally different than what she expects – say ten years older and/or forty pounds heavier. Far too many women (and men) have dating horror stories of meeting someone who posted an old and much more flattering picture of themselves, or described themselves in a way that’s true only in their fantasy life.

· Be late.

· Be cheap and expect her to pay her own way (if a woman offers to pay she is most likely not interested in you).

· Be rude (talking on your cell phone to someone else) and oblivious to the fact that she isn’t having a good time.

· Try and get physical way too soon. I once was on a date with a guy who, in the middle of an interesting conversation said, "hey, isn’t this the time in the date where we should be kissing?”

Okay gentlemen, now let’s hear straight from the ladies themselves:


My Worst Date

Karen, 37, Los Angeles CA

In my quest to find love, I went the route of the Internet. Many people that I had spoken to, both men and women had had some success, so I thought what the heck. With one individual I opened a dialog that went on for some time, he gave me his number, I made the call. We conversed for a week or so. We finally set a date – a cute restaurant on third.

I arrived about ten minutes early both anxious and excited, as I had never done this before! His photo was a handsome one, his personal description, interesting. I sat at a quaint table for two next to a window in a corner. He was late and I was beginning to get irked. Not a great way to make that first impression.

I let him off the hook however, he was a doctor...he finally showed up fifteen minutes late. My jaw metaphorically dropped; the photo on his page must have been ten years old! I barley recognized him. He sat down and we spoke freely. In his personal description he mentioned that he had kids. Twice I had asked (via email and over the phone) how many kids he had, and twice he ignored the question. He finally tells me he has four kids. Four! I would have never agreed to lunch. Don`t get me wrong, I`ve dated guys with kids, I love kids. But four is too many for me. His cell phone rings. He picks up, he is a doctor and now a father of four... but no. He must have talked about his swimming pool to whom ever it was on the other end (I didn`t care at this point!), for at least ten minutes! I could not wait to get out of there.

At the end of this "date" I said thank you he walked me to my car and we said good-bye. My car was in a pay lot of which he did not offer to pay for. Not that I expected him to, but it would have been a very nice gesture.

The moral of my scenario...be honest and polite to whom ever you are with even if they are not the one for you!


Mae Mae, 34, Ventura CA

Well, I can`t recall any date horror stories. I`ll share my experiences in any event, thought not too exciting. I have been on several dates where I actually was asked out by the guy, but paid for my own dinner, drinks, etc., sometimes even his!!! What`s worse is that afterwards, several of these men tried to make a move and sleep with me. ARGH!!! I`d say that`s just tacky; terrible etiquette, especially if the guy asks the girl out! I suppose that`s what I get for being attracted to musicians and artists... You would think I had a label on my forehead that read, SUPER EASY SUGAR MOMMA!!!!!


Her Best Date

Ivy, 23, San Francisco CA

I dated a co-worker in the summer of 2003. His roommate was our manager and was also dating a co-worker. We worked in Lake Tahoe, and the four of us got dressed up and went to the comedy club at Harvey’s. We sat in front, and got hassled by one of the comedians, which was so fun. After that we had some drinks in the casino, and took a cab back the boys’ apartment. They lived walking distance from a restaurant that also had hot tubs. We called and reserved the last hour available. The four of us, still drunk, walked to the restaurant, and had ourselves a nice time. The girl working there gave us an extra half hour free of charge, and we got down and dirty in our respective "corners” of the hot tub. That was the best date I ever had, and it was a double date to boot! My date was great because he treated me as though I wasn`t eight years younger, but his equal. He made me feel special, and the four of us got along great the whole night. We had fun as a group, and yet gave each other space. We walked back to the apartment dripping wet, and then the boys made sure the girls were "dripping wet" the rest of the night!


Mae Mae, 34, Ventura CA

My best date ever has to be with my current bf and the true love of my life! It was a simple date; we went to City Walk, browsed around, got candy, ate dinner and had a few beers at a club. What was so striking and special about this date (especially given the fact I had grown accustom to losers) on our first date, I never opened my own door, he didn`t allow me fork out a dime (he even bought my cigarettes and he doesn`t smoke), he catered to my desires and needs before his, and I`ve never left his side since. I still don`t open my own doors nor does he let me pay for anything when we go out! He was literally shocked that I had never been treated "like a woman should be treated" in his own words. Btw, my bf is a complete paraplegic - in a wheelchair for life. For the record, he is not a musician and has a college degree and a great career as well. He is and always will be a true gentleman. Take note boys, being old fashioned isn`t out of style.