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How To Give Oral Sex
"The entire world rests on the tip of the tongue.” – Yiddish Proverb
Recently a young male reader of BedroomInsider asked for a few pointers on performing oral sex on women so I’ve decided it’s the right time to revisit this most important topic and give you all a little brush up course on the crucial basics of performing awesome oral sex.
But before we get started on the subject of how to give oral sex, let me first answer the question as to why a man needs to be a master at going down on a woman in the first place. It’s very simple my friends, because the ancient proverb quoted above is right.
Yes, when you’re a man who’s a master at oral sex -- going south on women -- the entire world really does rest on the tip of your tongue. Why is this? Because it’s one of the easiest ways to bring a woman the greatest amount of pleasure in the shortest amount of time. It really ought to be a no-brainer. There is absolutely nothing like the soft wetness of your tongue to make a woman’s nether regions equally soft and wet – and ready to get it on with the rest of you.
Sounds good to me.
So here we go:
Basic Grooming (Yours)
No, this isn’t going to be the place to talk about getting your girl to go bare down below. This is where we’re going to talk about your grooming habits on your face and your fingers. Yep, those all-important digits of yours need to be as smooth (and clean) as your face does if you want women to be happy to open their creamy thighs for you. Why is this so? Because women have very sensitive genitals guys, and dirty or ragged nails, and even tough calluses can make them sore – something you want to avoid at all costs.
If you’re the sort of man who earns his living with his hands, and smooth fingers are beyond your reach, consider using finger cots. Like mini condoms finger cots are made of latex and slip over your fingers (they’re used in all kinds of light manufacturing) and will make them nice and smooth.
Ease Into Your Approach
Anticipation is such a powerful tool in turning on women. Use it to your advantage! Cruise south rather than rushing your way down into position. Kiss and caress her neck, her breasts, her stomach, and then go back up to her breasts… keep her guessing!
Make her tremble with anticipation, let her think that she`s about to get great oral sex (then be sure to give it to her). Don’t pull or yank down her panties (if she’s still wearing them) use them to make her crazy. Scoot them aside in strategic spots and use your tongue just for a lick or two and then replace them. Take your time when you finally ease them off her – and do it with a flourish to let her know you’re just as excited to get down to it as she is.
Find a Comfortable Position For Bothof You
Okay, I know this is practical advice and doesn’t sound sexy – but neither is getting a crook in your neck or your gal being too uncomfortable to be able to lose herself into your masterful tongue work. Don’t be fancy, figure out what works for the both of you.
Start Slow & Ask For Guidance
One of the ways men continually blow junks with women in bed (can I be more clear?) is using the type of touch, and pressure the man would like. This is one of the most important facts about oral sex you’ve got to get through your skull – start softer than soft and ask for feedback and guidance. And by guidance yes, I mean asking her to show you exactly how she gets the party on by herself. If you ask nicely, with a some charm, and eagerly with the clear intention of wanting to learn chances are she’ll feel safe enough to show you exactly how she does it – and pay attention!
When I recommend that you ask for guidance you need to have your wits about you. If you ask a woman "do you like this?” when you’re going down on them most women will say, "yes” even if it’s just not floating her boat. If you instead ask a question that compares one type of touch, lick, etc. to another such as "do you like this, or this better?” and you’ll get much better feedback – which is what we all need because each woman is her very own country.
Another Reason to Ask For Guidance
Remember when I said it was crucial for you to find comfortable positions for both of you? One of the main reasons is that even with an artful tongue cunnilingus can take quite some time before a woman reaches an orgasm (but hey so can fellatio so we really can’t complain can we?). This is another reason to ask for guidance – you want to be smart and do all possible to be moving the show in the right direction.
Basic Oral Sex Techniques
First off, be very careful how you approach her clitoris – this small bunch of nerves packs a powerful punch. In fact, it has more nerve endings (8,000) than any other part of the human body. And don’t forget that her entire pelvic region is super sensitive to stimulation as well. The undersides of her buttocks, her inner thighs, and her outer vaginal lips are all super sensitive and love to be kissed, caressed and licked.
Another important fact is to remember to vary your tongue technique enough so that you don’t wear out, but not to change so often that you break any wonderful orgasmic momentum you’ve got going on for her. Make sure you’ve got open communication going with the woman so that she feels okay to ask you to keep "going” with a particular stroke, motion, etc. that’s bringing her particular pleasure.
Your hands are also very important, not only to make sure you’re getting to the sweet spots, but also to add extra sizzle and stimulation to oral sex. By using your thumb to lift the skin on her pubic mound just above her clitoris just a bit you’ll stretch her clitoris so that it’s easier for your tongue to reach all the right places. You can also use your forefinger to tease the entrance of her vagina and of course slip a digit inside to give her vaginal muscles something to grip onto while you’re tantalizing her silly.
By Grant Day
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