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Time To Kick Your "Inner Child's" Little Ass!
Dear reader:
This week's article is a departure from my usual format where I answer a reader's specific question. This is my response to a reader that has written a number of times to tell me all about his failures with a certain woman, and women in general.
My first response was to direct him to get his education with women corrected. He then began sending all the reasons why he just couldn't reach his goals and why education wouldn't work for him.
I think that sometimes we all need a little kick in the ass to get back on track.
-DWN
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Let's get past the bullshit here. You've written to me now a few times to tell me what a failure you are and why you just can't reach your goals with women. There is only one reason why any of this is true: it's your attitude. You've allowed yourself the luxury of being a failure so that you can feel sorry for yourself and hope that others will too. I don't work this way. In fact, you've taken the pussy's way out.
Now, don't write to me again telling me all the failures you've had in your life as though that's a reason why you can't succeed. That's just crap - a total cop-out, and an absolving of your responsibilities to yourself. The fact is you can succeed with this woman - or any other if you just decide you want to. But that means you're going to have to bite the bullet and get educated. You're going to have to accept responsibility for your success - and your failure, because believe me: it's only YOU that causes either. You might be "special" and "unique" but you aren't so special or unique that you can fail every single time - unless YOU set yourself up for it. Believe me, I see this happen every single day for guys much worse off than you - they cut the crap, grow up and start winning.
It's tough to be successful, but it's by far tougher to be a failure - especially when you finally realize that either is entirely up to you. Nobody outside of yourself has anything to do with this. YOU make the decisions to avoid education. YOU put yourself out there without help to get tromped on, and YOU revel in the pain YOU cause YOURSELF. But then, it's also YOU that has to decide YOU'VE had enough and are going to move past this.
Don't write to me again with your perceived failures. I'm not going to nurture that inner child of yours. Instead, I'm going to kick its little ass. Start your growth plan TODAY. Get a copy of my book and READ the damn thing! Do the exercises and start yourself on the road you really want - one of success with women. THEN we'll have something worthwhile to write about. Who knows, maybe I'll even put your story in my next book - but only if YOU do the work first!
Have a love, relationship or man/woman question? Dr. Neder answers all email. Write him at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com for answers. Learn about his book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World", at: www.beingaman.com.
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