I got called by a friend to be a "wingman" with the two girls he caught in his web at one of those Uber lounges. The scene was funky rhythms to a backdrop of dimly lit private tables. I met with the trio who were wicked drunk and parked at one of the tables. I did greetings to the crew and then made a bee-line to the bar to catch up. At the bar was a svelte blonde facing both her girlfriend and the guy behind her. She was so sweet with her sexy smile and confident laugh. The body language suggested that she was alone and the other two were a couple. I knew when I saw what I was in for back at the table, I no longer wanted to be the wingman and I wanted the blonde`s skinny little phone number.
Within seconds of my salivating, I got bum rushed by the girl I was to "entertain" so my friend could hook-up. She saw me talking to the girl and knew I was throwing out some rhythm of my own. She put me back in the corral and wouldn`t let me go. She was on a mission herself. I am not one to turn down a freebie, but I was faced with a dilemma. If I give the 3rd wheel all my attention, then Blonderella will think I am not interested. So I did the only thing a gentleman would do. I told the group that I was tired and wanted to go home early. They were cool and my pseudo date got the idea we would talk another time. On my way out, I had the waitress send my blonde barfly a drink on me, with a verbal message that I was pleased to meet her. I did not feel it was appropriate to ask a girl for her number and alienate the other. Plus, I don`t want to look like a heal trying to play both cards. I go out a lot and hoped I would see her again.
Something similar happened with an executive secretary I met at an Internet café that had the same outcome. This girl was walking in to the café as I was on my cell phone outside. We exchanged "hellos" as she passed. She was such a babe, and I could feel her look meant more than just hello.
She went in to use the computer as I did, and I sat right across from her. I tried flirting with her, but she was glued to the screen. I am on one of those dating sites and figured I could kill time checking some girls out while flirting with her. The café girl never really gave me the go ahead to flirt more, so I just checked the girls online. WHAM! She was one of the girls online, so was the blonde from the bar. I typed in some criteria for my search and both of them were using the same popular dating site.
In the past, I would meet a girl and get her phone number, then after sobering up; I would try to remember what was said or where I got it. I found a number once, six days after I got it, and the girl chewed my head off for not calling sooner. Most of the time, I just loose the number all together and hope I see them again. There are so many forms of "missed connections", I can`t count.
Often times missed connection meetings are as abstract as a library visit. For instance, you could be in line at a grocery store and feel you have the ultimate chemistry connection with someone you have never spoke with standing next to you. Yet neither of you had the brains to speak up and later get the epiphany to do so when it is too late. Then one of you places an ad in some abstract news publication hoping by chance that that person will be reading it and call. You have a better chance of winning the lottery in Tibet, then someone knowing what paper you were "begging" in.
I got lucky finding the two girls online but later when I thought about it, it seemed reasonable. I found that singles sites are a great resource for local communities. If you did have a missed connection with someone, chances are they are single. With millions of Americans online to meet new people it is not a stretch that your mystery mate might be advertising. Think about it, I found two out of two on the site typing in simple parameters.
The next time you are going out to a bar/club; go to any dating site and type in the kind of person you`re looking for right down to the distance they live from your zip code. You will see pictures of local singles, many of which live right near you and frequent the same locals. If you see them out, you already know they are single. Or, if you see them out and have a "missed connection" this might be your best resource for finding them.
The only other method I can think of that comes close for finding a missed connection is the "repeat performance". Repeat you steps. If you two really had a connection, then return to the same place at the exact same time the following week (if possible). Remember, they have only the same information you do. So they maybe are thinking the same thing. While you`re waiting for the week to pass, pass the time checking them out online. You never know what you will find on the internet, maybe even an article about missed connections.
