To compare yourselves to another couple is human nature. Valuable lessons can be learned from the way friends conduct their relationships. But when problems arise, good or bad, the assumptions you make could be off. This mistaken info can affect the way you view and approach your own relationship.

That's why to understand what goes on behind closed doors is essential. This knowledge can give you a better perspective about your own love life and even realize how good you have it.

Some Couples Try To Live Up To Your Expectations

There are always those dynamic duos in every social gathering. You know - the ones who are so interesting and so crazy in love with each other. You've probably let them know how fabulous you think they are (unless you are to jealous to say so).

The result being: Because they like who they become around you they may try to be that amazing or just don't want to let you down. It's a type of social motivation - Knowing how others perceive us can influence our behavior.

Sadly this playacting can discourage those who are looking in. You may even feel like your not as compatible as you should be - Like the wonder team. -

Here's what you need to think about: when this couple is alone they may not be so perfect, in fact they are pretty ordinary. The super closeness might not be their usual rapport. Even though they are in top form, (with you), the rest of the time they most likely have the same issues we all have. Because of this don't hold yourself to an unrealistic standard.

Some Couples May Have Something To Hide

They don't seem to be able to keep their damn hands off each other, and we get the idea that this pair are looking around the room for a dark corner to do their deed. This can be misleading - the more this couple make out in public the less bonded they may actually be.

The more physical this couple may get in public can indicate a lack of intimacy at home. Exaggerated affection as a relationship grows, may be masking feelings of inadequacy. Also a couple with a hands off relationship does not mean they have problems. They may just want their intimate moments private. Chances are they are just a normal couple who knows there are some things that other people don't want to see.

All Relationships Have A Flip Side

Your friends engagement ring is so big and brilliant that it might make you feel jealous. We're not talking about the price tag for those things. Every relationship has it's ups and downs. maybe your friends boyfriend makes a lot of money , for he is work obsessed and is never home enough. It helps consider the possible sacrifices that may have been made when you are feeling envious of him. Who knows if givin the choice, your friend would rather chose to have more quality time together.

On the other hand, you may have a friend who's blissful with a guy you consider as a loser and lacks ambition, but he could be completely devoted to her. You should not judge because what works for one will not always work for another. You never know about the important moments, but something keeps them together.

Bickering Couples May Actually Be Close

It's really uncomfortable to spend the evening with a squabbling couple. You start feeling bad for this seemingly doomed couple, but all in all they're probably ok.

When people argue it's usually a sign that this couple are still emotionally involved. They would actually rather hash out their problem, then keeping their mouth shut. They also know that a little argument will not ruin their relationship. When couples 'fight' though, They're usually dealing with bigger issues. Still that isn't so bad as long as they resolve thing and communicate in a decent way. There is nothing wrong with a disagreement. If a couple never argues they may be keeping thing bottled up and don't have any idea how to fix this relationship.

We All Have Doubts Sometimes

Walking around on her face and denying the fact she never questions her relationship is a 'frickin' liar. Even if we don't say it out loud we all second-guess our own relationship.

A month after she became engaged she started having panic attacks. She was positive she wanted to marry him, but she kept asking herself if she could live with certain qualities for the rest of her life. She asked her married friends if they had any doubts, but because all of her friends said no, she was afraid to admit to her own concerns.

These doubts may actually help you relationship. To make sure you are really happy, take stock every now and then instead of going through the motions. You may the decide just how good things are, or that things could be better. If that is the case you can take steps to improve the relationship.

Its ok to have reservations every once in a while - your not alone. It is agreed by experts that the most perfect relationship has its own unique flaws and imperfections.