If you are into BD/SM or worse then this article will bore you to death and you may go have cigarette or get on my editor’s boat for a quickie while I school the kids with IDLE HANDS. Idle hands do the devil’s work because there really is something sinister about wanting to HURT as part of your sex or love equation. There is a limit and line to all things good and all things bad so make sure you know where it is and even more importantly your partner knows it too.

I am choker! There I admit it and I make sure the women I date know this. Oddly, all women have a different way of choking me so I do my best to teach them and also when to let go. There is nothing worse than when you get caught with a dead body while fucking. I would not want to wish that on anyone. When girls choke me they really give the THROTTLE, depriving me of all oxygen and bringing me close to passing out. Good family fun.

Spank me, spank me and don’t forget to thank me! Some like a good hot smack on the ass or 2 or 3 or twelve. I don’t like to hit women so I never seem to strike them hard enough when I sack up with a real hardcore. Some chicks actually smack me in the face repeatedly while we have sex and expect me to hit them back. Instead I just take an un-lubricated finger and jam it in her ass real quick – the hardcore pain lovers always appreciate a little finger sodomy.

Whether you are a choker or a spanker or a slugger with a whip you have to establish boundaries. It is important to decipher the difference between yells of pleasure and yells of pain and agony. Sometimes the agony is welcome but you don’t want to get confused by what is happening and emotions run HIGH in these rough sex situations so pay very close attention to your partner and make certain that before you begin that you both communicate.

Communication will be the foundation for either a successful or unsuccessful union of two BEATERS. You must establish a SAFE WORD. A SAFE WORD is a word that “stops all the action at once”. A safe word is so important and even the real pros who practice BD/SM on a regular basis have a safe word – it protects you both from things getting out of hand. Personally I a have a safe word that makes my condition crystal clear to my partner, “I am dying”.

By Jackson Morris
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