Having SEX FANTASIES is as natural as having dreams of success at work or dreams of having children. Sex fantasies are natural and for the longevity of monogamous relationships are essential.

"I wish I could have sex with every brunette and redhead at the same time”. Okay now you know my sexual fantasy. It may sound a little ridiculous but it is my fantasy and I am keeping it. When you ARE in a relationship, communication is the key to the success of the relationship. Communicating what you want sexually is very important. When you are comfortable with your mate you can express your sexual fantasies. Don’t EVER suppress your sex fantasies no matter how crazy they might be to you. It is not healthy if you keep them in and it might compel you to do something of "indiscretion”. It is much healthier to get your fantasies out in the open with your partner because they may share them as well.

I once dated a girl for two years before she told me that she was dying to get it on with a girl. She was afraid of telling me because she was not experienced with women and she thought I would insist on having sex with the other girl. I laughed and told her that I had fantasized about seeing her with another girl and if she did not want me to participate I was fine with that.

Did you see that? Two people having an ADULT conversation about their sex life and fantasies.

Even fantasies that include other people outside of your relationship are okay to discuss. Frankly, your partner has a right to know if you’re thinking about having sex with other men or women without them. YOU OWE THAT TO THEM. If you a single person you can do what you want and if you are smart (like me) you will tell you new partners right up front about any fetishes or fantasies or scenarios that you want fulfilled.

Now if you have the more mild mannered fantasies like ROLEPLAY or PUBLIC SEX that is a great place to start. Another good one is having your partner go to a bar and pick up on you as if you two don’t know each other and tease the other patrons around you.

There are many forms of safe and sane sex fantasies and then of course there is the fantasy level that myself and the editor are in and that is the MAJOR LEAGUES. When you are in the major leagues sometimes you don’t realize it but you yourself are the Fantasy and you are fulfilling it for someone else.

Please write to BedroomInsider.com and tell us your wildest fantasies – remember this is BedroomInsider, so make it good.

By: Jackson Morris
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