What surprised me most was how similar the nightlife vibe and attitude toward dating was there as it is in the big city. The people here are just like the people in LA & NY... except they are not jaded yet.

On one of the nights that my college age female cousin took us out for partying, dancing and shooters I got to sit and listen to a great debate between two 23 year old guys about what was worse, a tease or a sleaze. A tease is a girl who exudes sexuality and flirts quite often without the payoff and the sleaze, a girl who sleeps with whomever whenever she wants with no regret.

The conversation came to a head for debate when one guy blurted: I would rather a girl be a whore and be proud of it than be a tease and not satisfy anyone.


TEASE OR SLEAZE DEBATE

There is no doubt that teasing is fun and most welcome at different times. I know when I am having sex with a hot female, I love it when she toys with me and plays little games with me or my body. Teasing can be a form of foreplay to what you will eventually get.

Teasing is most appreciated when there is evidence of a possible payoff to the tease. The teaser is clearly in power here and can choose give it up or box it up. Teasing a guy is like revving up an engine and never intending to drive the car. So is teasing a good thing? Sure it can be a good thing if the teasing does not cost you anything. Teasing is a bad thing when it is like… "strippers".

Strippers "strip" you of your money not your clothes so anytime you are in a circumstance that costs you money, gets you horny and has no payoff - you are being teased. Escape with your blue balls while you can. Many men out there like strip clubs and to you I say, "Get a hooker".

At least with a hooker you know when those clothes come off you are getting some of what was in the wrapper. A hooker in Vegas (depending on the time of day) can start at $200 and that does not include alcohol! A strip club visit could cost you nearly that much and at the end of the night you are still horny hanging out with a couple of guys… that sucks. Don't think I have not "been there done that" myself...

That is why I recommend getting your money's worth by going right to oldest known profession. Even taking a legitimate girl on a date can cost upwards of $100 a pop if you do it right. Men do not spend money of any kind on a female unless they think they might get sex for the investment.


She's A Tease

The aforementioned examples highlight the investment of strippers and hookers - the real life distributors of both tease and sleaze. But what about you and the girls you know, how do you tap into finding out which group they represent.

Do you know a girl who always gives you a look you don't understand and you wonder if she is flirting with you until you flirt back to only find out she was teasing you? Even when I was at that bar in Omaha with a table full of locals did I notice from the guy's reaction who the "tease" at the table was.

A hot blond with ample offerings was commanding all the attention of the men and most of all, the bouncer. The bouncer was buying drinks for her and her friends and even getting her to take pictures kissing another girl. She told us when the bouncer was not around that she would never give it up to him but he believes she will someday.

She doesn't even tell him that she is not going to give it up; the truth is he believes it only because he buys into the teasing. She is a queen of teasing and he is just another disciple in her kingdom.

It is this behavior that stirs the debate - but if you are not at the other end of the teasing then you are not affected by it. For example, I sat at the table watching her tease the bouncer. She gave me no attention but she did not lead ME on either so I say to her, "Drink his drinks and tease on"!

For the local girl who "gets around" a bit I want to say on behalf of all men "WE LOVE YOU"! When we know that a girl is sexual and has no problem with it we tend to gravitate toward her confidence and sexuality. I don't think because a female is as liberated sexually as a male that she is a slut, whore, or sleaze.

That would make all men in the world all of those titles and more. Some women know that they enjoy a good fuck every once in a while and it does not have to be from the last guy who did the job. If it were not for these female players many men would never get laid at all.

So the next time you and your buddies are looking for action - skip the strippers and teasaholics. Or better yet become a teaser yourself. Start working on your teasing and "lead on" skills with the girls who do it too. Otherwise, take your time energy and money to a professional. There is a "no refund" policy but satisfaction is guaranteed.