And just why is charm so important? Because it’s probably the most powerful tool a man can have in his arsenal to attract women. And no, I’m not being overly dramatic. Forget cocky & funny. Leave that to Carrot Top.


Pure Sexy Un-Adulterated Charm Destroys Cocky & Funny Any Day Of The Week

In a nutshell here’s the reason why charm is so very important – charm doesn’t rely on looks or money or power to cast it’s spell, and it costs nothing to use. Charm doesn`t have to say a word. Charm walks away with cocky and funny`s woman, leaving cocky and funny scratching his head. "What just happened?..."

One doesn’t need to be super intelligent to "get” the concept, and while not every man learns to behave with the charm and ease of James Bond absolutely every man can learn a degree of charm that will improve his relationships with women, beyond anything any artificial pickup artist may try.


PickUp Artists Rely On `Artificial` Seduction - Charm Is Pure `Natural` Seduction - And Much, Much More Powerful

Why? Because being charming is a mind-set, a way of thinking and behaving that shows others (especially women) that she`s important, she matters, and you will take her needs (her sexual needs) into account.

And you don`t even have to tell her. She figures it out for herself. Now stand back, and she will come for you.

You literally make other people feel important by the manner in which you treat them. If it seems a bit old fashioned it does have an old school element to it – but let’s be very clear that being charming is NOT the same as being a woman’s lap dog or doormat. No sir. While Italians and some Southern men can seem a bit too "soft” to seem like real to their rougher male counter parts the genteel manners of these two cultures hide the fact that charm is one of the easiest ways for the fox to get into the hen house.

Ever wonder why so many `alpha males` are uneasy around charming men? Charm oozes pleasure and fantasy. Women day-dream about pleasure and fantasy all ... day ... long.


Southern Charm

Let’s go over this again to make sure you got it – you don’t need to be rich, young, well educated, have a powerful position in society, or even be particularly smart in order to learn how to be charming – you just need to be willing to learn.

And I think you can do that otherwise you’d wouldn’t be here reading this now would you?

Here’s another thing to remember that makes charm so powerful – charm never goes out of style.

So let’s go over some of the "charm” basics that Italians and certain Southern men seem to have bred into their bones:


Charms Attitude - Mental

Remember I said that "charm” was essentially a way of thinking and behaving – both of which are impossible if you don’t have the right mental attitude. If you fear women, if at heart you even dislike them because of painful relationships in the past (yet you still desire them), you’re not going to be able to create the right mental attitude until you let go of these feelings. Now you may have every reason to be angry with a certain woman in the past, but she’s gone now and future women don’t need to pay for her sins. Do your absolute best to let the past stay where it is and not poison your current living.

Charm is positive and optimistic. Charmers move forward in the world treating women well because they believe and expect they’ll do the same to them in return. It’s that simple.


Italian Charms

Italian men love flirting and seduction and they move forward in life with the knowledge that Italian women (and women all over the world) love the game just as much as they do. They smile and wink and say "hello” and start up conversations with women who catch their attention with the confidence that the women will at least reciprocate with charm back – an Italian woman may say "no thank you” in so many words, but she usually does so in a way that’s equally charming in return. Flirtation is a game of appreciation between Italian men and women, sure sex is at the heart of it, but it’s not about rushing into getting naked, it’s about celebrating the fact that we have two sexes who are so fascinated by each other.

But don’t get me wrong; none of us should worry whether Italian men get enough sex.


Charms Attitude – Behavioral

Charmers expect good things to happen to them so they treat others with respect (because they expect a positive outcome to their exchange) unless shown someone doesn’t deserve it. Which is often the exact opposite of what we do in today’s rushed and rude modern society.

One of the most important skills of the charmers is that they know how to listen. One of the very biggest mistakes men make on dates (especially the first one) is to keep the focus of attention on themselves in order to show off. This usually does exactly the opposite of impressing a woman. In fact it usually totally turns her off. Charmers, on the other hand, know how to engagea woman in conversation. They know how to draw a woman out and get her talking about herself, her likes, her interests and her longings because not only are they truly interested in her as a person – they know this information will aid them in their seduction.


Charms Attention to Detail

Charmers know that seduction is literally in the details. A charmer pays attention to what a woman says and does, he notices how she dresses, and what catches her eye because this will help him charm and seduce her in the future. The charmer is always thinking ahead. He does not, however, let the woman catch picking up all these details about her – that would come across as stalking.

As I noted above (and have said many times before here at SI) most men lose in the dating game by making a date all about themselves. Charmers win by listening and by asking thought provoking questions. They know exactly where to take a woman on a date because he’s listened during their conversations. He knows, for example, whether to take a woman out to a fancy dinner or if she’d prefer a picnic in a park. He’s found out whether it would be better to take her to the ball game or the opera.

And when a woman is already taken the charmer knows that being charming to her is one of the very best ways to set himself up as "next” when things aren’t going well with her current man.