Honor, integrity and trust are just a few things that go to the wayside once we have had a few partners. Being a virgin is a lot like creating a samurai sword, it is a lost art.

Contrary to popular belief and Monica Lewinsky – once you have had a dick in any part of your body you are not a virgin anymore. I want to dispel the myths about blowjobs. If a girl told me that she gave a guy a blowjob and got an STD I would say she is no virgin. The same goes for you fellas too. Other than pregnancy you are at risk for STDs with any oral satisfaction.

When and how? That is the question everyone asks. Most female virgins have a fairy tale version about how they see themselves losing their virginity and men have a pornographic version of the same event. EVERYONE must keep that in mind as they are considering giving it up for the first time. Men don’t think like girls and want to shove it in a soft wet place. Women want to be caressed, kissed and loved to get them “wet” and they want to slow because the first time does not feel…well let’s just say their might be a little blood if you break her hymen – not the most comfortable sexual experience.

TAKE IT SLOW. If someone is nice enough to lose their virginity to you or vice versa then don’t abuse the privilege and treat the love making session like it might be your last. If this was the last time you would ever make love would you not take your time? Take your time and communicate because communication is the foundation of all successful relationships and sexual compatibility. Find out what he/she likes or does not like and then emphasize those actions for your partner.

Most importantly USE PROTECTION. No matter what you decide about how, when and who you will lose your virginity too, make sure you wear protection. This means CONDOM – no exceptions. Unless your married and a virgin or pregnant and a virgin those are the only two reasons not to wear a condom and I still say wear one!

Lastly, the best decision you can make for your FIRST PARTNER is to pick someone you trust that will not go out of bounds on you during the session. Personally, I don’t recommend doing with someone the first time if you THINK you are in love with them. Men are flighty and after they have sex with you the sometimes “jump ship”. If you really want to protect yourself then pick a person you “don’t care about and just enjoy yourself. Many like me believe that SEX and LOVE are not the same at all and if you keep them separate you will have a great love life and a great sex life. Be careful.

By Jackson Morris
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